Imperfection or I’m-perfection?

It has been quite a hectic few months for me, started a new job and moved to a new home all in the matter of 2 months. Needless to say there are still boxes stacked in different places around the house, areas that still need to be sorted and that feeling of being “home” to be found once again. I have found myself frustrated with having to start over again at the age of 35 because of how life is “supposed to be” by the time a single mom of two reaches this age but after reading about and trying to adapt to the concept of Wabi Sabi, I have found my life to be quite delightful actually. 

I’ll be perfectly honest here, my job started out reaaaally slow and the pay is definitely nothing to write home about but I am a 30 minute walk from home! I work within the publishing industry and am surrounded by what I love all day. By embracing the imperfection of my financial situation and balancing it out with the perfection of logistics, I have found myself smiling and listening to the birds chirp on the way in to work in the morning. 

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Nothing lasts, nothing is finished, nothing is perfect.

Wabi Sabi is the ancient Japanese wisdom of finding beauty in imperfection and simplicity in nature, of accepting the natural cycles of growth, decay, and death. Enjoying the simple, natural, and uncluttered, Wabi Sabi reveres authenticity above all. It celebrates cracks, chips, and other marks of time, weather, and use. Once we see the beauty in such “deficiencies”, we can learn to embrace the flaws—the wrinkles, rust, and frayed edges, and all the imperfections in our lives.

How to Be…. Happy

So what does Wabi Sabi tell us about how to live? Developed from Zen Buddhism, Wabi Sabi is a path to enlightenment. It is a practice, a lifestyle of living modestly, simply being satisfied with what is. 

People who live a Wabi Sabi life come to a gentle acceptance of the imperfection in their lives. They accept the mistakes, the disappointment, the broken promises. And even eventually, if lucky to live long enough, they accept the liver spots, the gray hair, the wrinkles. They see the beauty even there. They embrace it all.

Finally, it is about us. We are all imperfect. We are all flawed. Being human, we strive to live up to our expectations. Then we fall short. We make mistakes. No one is perfect. We are as we are.

We wish our circumstances were different—a better job, more money, a partner, fewer problems. But this is our real life. It is what it is. And yet, nothing is permanent. This is just what’s so.

Now, go and be happy.

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What would you tell your 20’something self??

 

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An age old question, “if you could go back and do it over, would you?” … my response, “uh,,, no – probably not”.

 

Now here’s a good one, “What advice / life lessons would you tell your 20 year old self?” – the reason I chose 20 year old self is because we all know teens don’t listen to anyone but their friends so going back and telling yourself something in those years would simply be a waste now wouldn’t it?

I read a post recently that got me thinking about this, man oh man what wouldn’t I tell my self? “don’t take that second piece of cake!”, “no that last tequila shot was not a good idea”. *giggle, it’s the little things that count right? Anyway, I decided to limit my telling to 6 things – 6 life lessons or tidbits of advice for my 20 year old self:

  1. Just say NO– If you don’t want to do something, say no. People will try to take advantage of you and use you. Eliminate time-wasters and stop getting sucked into things you don’t want to do. Say no. The world won’t end and life will go on. Always go with your gut. That goes for people, places and things.
  2. Have a Social Life – Surround yourself with only positive, fun and supportive people. Extra points if they are like-minded and share similar goals. Distance yourself from any friends who are negative, bring you down or are emotional vampires.
  3. SAVE SAVE SAVE – Have enough money saved, keep your resume updated and diversify your skillset so that if you lose your job tomorrow, you will still be on your feet.
  4. Cry Cry Cry – You will get back up. Your heart will mend. You will forget. And one day in the future, it will all make sense.
  5. Get Active –  Get into a healthy lifestyle now- it gets harder the older you get.
  6. And finally.. –  Know that this is the time of your life where you get to explore, dream, stumble, learn, make mistakes, get your heart broken….the list is endless. These are the years where you figure out who you are. Enjoy it! Time is something you can’t get back so live, laugh, love and enjoy every moment!

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TAG… I’m it!

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I was tagged by one of the most inspiring ladies I’ve had the pleasure of having in my life at a point in my past, Author of A Wee Nest.  🙂

This is a fun way to take some time out of the day to reconnect and to share a bit about myself with you all.

I hope some of you play along!

5 Things I Have a Passion For

  1.  Reading / Books
  2.  Photography
  3.  Art (creativity in general)
  4.  The Paranormal
  5.  PKU Awareness 

Five Things I Would Like To Do Before I Die

  1. Go on a multi-day hiking trip
  2. See the Northern Lights (Aurora Borealis)
  3. Road trip across Canada
  4. Open my own bookstore (with art gallery included)
  5. Live on a little farm away from the city

Five Things I Say, A Lot

  1. Allister…What are you doing?
  2. Keelyn, That’s enough now!
  3. Allister… Where is your cup?
  4. Hi Tibby, Who’s my pretty girl? (Tibby is my bf.. Kitty)
  5. I need a break!

Five Things I’ve Read and Recommend Reading

  1.   I ❤ New York
  2.  Scar Tissue
  3.  The Alchemist
  4.  The Hitchhicker’s Guide to the Galaxy
  5.  It’s Called A Breakup Because It’s Broken

Five of my Favourite Movies

I haven’t watched too many movies lately, more TV show’s but here are my top 5 :

  1.  Mists of Avalon
  2.  Pulp Fiction
  3.  Practical Magic
  4.  The Dark Knight
  5.  Dirty Dancing (nobody puts baby in a corner!)

Five Places I Would Love to Travel

  1.  Salem
  2.  London (actually the UK in general)
  3.  South America
  4.  New York
  5.  Trinidad / Tobago

Five Bloggers I’ve Chosen to Participate

  1. You! yes You!
  2. Lindsey Kelk (most awesome Chick lit Author on THE planet)
  3. Magpie Girl
  4. That girl on the right

Thanks for stopping by!

A silent addiction?

We’ve all done it, taken months and months to upload our photo’s to the computer . I used to be pretty good at getting them done as soon as I was done taking them (pretty much), well this time around I left my photo’s un-edited and not uploaded for a good few months, leaving me with over 300 edits to do today – it was fun!

Having realized that Facebook had become a silent addiction, I have decided to move away from that social network and to communicate on a more personal note via my blog only. Also, I finally updated my flickr photo stream  with a few photo’s that I felt “made the cut” to be viewed by the public. I hope you like them as much as I do.

We’ve all heard of the zombie apocalypse, and I am sure we all have our own version of it. I personally think we may have miss-interpreted the term “zombie”.

The addiction we all have to our Facebook / social media accounts have us communicating less, envying  more, spending countless hours trolling each-others timelines for the slightest indication that someone else may be referring to us personally via cryptic status updates so that we can lash out with some form of quoted message stolen from the internet  and pasted into our updates as a cryptic message to those that you know they are referring to you… It’s a crazy circle, and you’re probably getting on the defensive right now saying “pfft not me, I never thing that” , anyway my point is we have all become “zombies” to non-communication – god forbid all the servers were to shut down simultainiously and leave us with no connection to what Bobby did on his vacation, or how many times Jenny’s baby threw up!

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Thank YOU!

Having grown up on the other side of the world I never really celebrated Thanksgiving …. well not only on one day a year – you see we tend to be raised to be thankful every day, something that I personally (and I am entitled to my personal opinion) think is lacking in many places around the world – usually the places of  the higher privileged are much less thankful than they aught to be.

I celebrated Canadian Thanksgiving last night with my brother and my two children (who I am of coarse most thankful for) and got to thinking about what my “Giving Thanks” post would be, having read a number of posts made by friends and family … well to be honest they all seemed pretty generic “thank you for my wonderful friends” “thank you for my family” “Thank you for John Doe who got me through it all” yada yada yada, and although of coarse I am thankful for these things too – I feel that we are all forgetting to thank the most important person in our lives, the one who has truly been there for us through thick or thin, the one who never left, the one who never lied, the one who got you that promotion, the one who helped you lose those extra pounds… Our one true best friend, that knows us deep down – no matter what mask we choose to wear each day.  We forget to thank ourselves!

Yes your friends give you advice, your mom raised you, your boss gave you the promotion or your trainer kicked your butt into shape – BUT you implemented the advice, no one forced you. You worked your ass off for that promotion and you sacrificed, dieted and worked out every day to get into shape. You were there those nights when you were alone, you got yourself through that break up with dignity (and wine) ….So take some time today to say Thank you to yourself for all that you do, all you have been through and for all that you create for yourself.

When your done doing that, take some time to thank that turkey for giving its life, the farmers who worked tireless hours to get those veggies to the store, the clerk that works on your day off so you can nip up to the store for that can of whipped cream you forgot.