Imperfection or I’m-perfection?

It has been quite a hectic few months for me, started a new job and moved to a new home all in the matter of 2 months. Needless to say there are still boxes stacked in different places around the house, areas that still need to be sorted and that feeling of being “home” to be found once again. I have found myself frustrated with having to start over again at the age of 35 because of how life is “supposed to be” by the time a single mom of two reaches this age but after reading about and trying to adapt to the concept of Wabi Sabi, I have found my life to be quite delightful actually. 

I’ll be perfectly honest here, my job started out reaaaally slow and the pay is definitely nothing to write home about but I am a 30 minute walk from home! I work within the publishing industry and am surrounded by what I love all day. By embracing the imperfection of my financial situation and balancing it out with the perfection of logistics, I have found myself smiling and listening to the birds chirp on the way in to work in the morning. 

what-wabi-sabi-is

 

Nothing lasts, nothing is finished, nothing is perfect.

Wabi Sabi is the ancient Japanese wisdom of finding beauty in imperfection and simplicity in nature, of accepting the natural cycles of growth, decay, and death. Enjoying the simple, natural, and uncluttered, Wabi Sabi reveres authenticity above all. It celebrates cracks, chips, and other marks of time, weather, and use. Once we see the beauty in such “deficiencies”, we can learn to embrace the flaws—the wrinkles, rust, and frayed edges, and all the imperfections in our lives.

How to Be…. Happy

So what does Wabi Sabi tell us about how to live? Developed from Zen Buddhism, Wabi Sabi is a path to enlightenment. It is a practice, a lifestyle of living modestly, simply being satisfied with what is. 

People who live a Wabi Sabi life come to a gentle acceptance of the imperfection in their lives. They accept the mistakes, the disappointment, the broken promises. And even eventually, if lucky to live long enough, they accept the liver spots, the gray hair, the wrinkles. They see the beauty even there. They embrace it all.

Finally, it is about us. We are all imperfect. We are all flawed. Being human, we strive to live up to our expectations. Then we fall short. We make mistakes. No one is perfect. We are as we are.

We wish our circumstances were different—a better job, more money, a partner, fewer problems. But this is our real life. It is what it is. And yet, nothing is permanent. This is just what’s so.

Now, go and be happy.

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DIY Anyone?

If you have a Pinterest account, then chances are that you have a DIY board filled with things you’d like to try out for yourself.

A friend of mine over at A Wee Nest set up a fantastic Monthly DIY challenge and I was excited to join in on the fun, so here is my first attempt at checking off one of the DIY’s on my list:

…. Anyone who knows me, knows that I LOVE art. Creativity is essential in my opinion and so I chose to do a mixed media on canvas as tribute to THIS piece I found a while back.

 

Wax Crayons stuck to canvas using double sided tape

Wax Crayons stuck to canvas using double sided tape

Use hairdryer to melt

Use hairdryer to melt

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flipped over for a different look

flipped over for a different look

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12 STEPS TO LIVING A HAPPY LIFE IN 2013

12 STEPS TO LIVING A HAPPY LIFE IN 2013

By Sonia Ricotti

1. WRITE OUT YOUR GOALS. Take the time to do this one very important and crucial exercise. What do you want to accomplish in the next 12 months? Don’t just think about it or talk about it, write it down!

Studies have shown that the simple act of taking the time to write out your goals will dramatically increase the likelihood of achieving those goals!

So write, write, write!

2. LET GO OF “WHAT WAS”. It’s time to let go of the past (just leave it behind). Let’s face it, you can’t change the past. In fact, the past doesn’t even exist anymore. The only place it exists is in your mind.

Let it go. Learn the lessons, look for the silver-linings, and be grateful for what “is” today and what will be tomorrow…oooooohhhhh great things are waiting for you (if you are willing to “receive” them). It’s just hard to “receive” the new great stuff when you’re holding on to the negative bad stuff from the past.

LET GO and move on. It’s time.

3. FORGIVE. Are you holding on to any resentment, anger or regret toward someone? It’s time to forgive, and again, let go.

The only person you hurt when you don’t forgive, is yourself.

Don’t let anyone rent space in your head.

Who knows why people do what they do or say what they say (sometimes they don’t even know themselves). Stop trying to analyze it and make it mean something it doesn’t. That’s just wasted energy. Just forgive and move on. Be the bigger person.

Sometimes, we need to forgive ourselves for something we’ve done or said; if that’s the case, forgive yourself and move on. No one’s perfect. We all make mistakes and have done and said things we are not proud of – let it go (as per #2 above) and forgive yourself.

Today is a new day. Choose to be the best person you can be, starting this day forward.

4. LIVE “OUTSIDE” THE BOX. Don’t follow the “crowd”. Most people are unhappy with their lives (according to studies). Be courageous and follow the path to your dream life (not your neighbors dream life, your parents’ dream life or society’s dream life)…this is YOUR life. YOu are in charge of your life, no one else is (unless you allow them to be).

5. ENJOY THE JOURNEY. Why? Because the “journey” is your life! Sometimes we focus so much on the end result or the “goal” we wish to achieve, that we are not even enjoying the journey it takes to get there. If you’re really hating the journey, then maybe it’s time to make some changes in your life and/or your goal.

6. FAIL FORWARD. Most people are afraid to try something new because they are afraid to fail. Remember, the most successful people on this planet failed way more than the “average” person. In fact, if you ask any successful person, they’ll tell you how they failed A LOT!

Why did they become successful? Because, they never gave up.

Don’t ever let the fear of “failure” get in the way of living your dreams. If you fail, simply get back up, brush yourself off, learn the lessons you need to learn (that’s important), adjust your path and move forward…always move forward.

7. EAT HEALTHY AND BE ACTIVE. You only have this one body. Remember, if you get sick, you can’t trade it in for a new one.

What you do to your body today has a huge impact on how long you live and the quality of life you will lead in the future. Don’t wait until it’s too late. Start now.

8. BE THE MOST POSITIVE PERSON YOU KNOW. The words you use when you communicate with others, reflects your thoughts on the inside.

What you think about, you become.

Don’t get caught up in negative conversations or gossip with others. In fact, stay away from negative people altogether. They are “energy drainers”. They do not elevate you or your life. Remember, negativity is contagious and toxic — stay away from it. It will be difficult to manifest great things in your life being exposed to that negative energy.

Like Oprah says, “Be responsible for the energy you bring into a room.”

9. CREATE YOUR OWN “CIRCLE OF LIGHT”. Surround yourself with positive, highly evolved, loving people who elevate you.

Make it a priority that you will hang out with great, positive and loving people in 2013. Sometimes it’s hard to find those people in your immediate social surroundings, if that’s the case, step “outside the box” and go find them.

Join a fun and positive “Meetup” group or a special group in your local area that focuses on “inspiration” or on a topic that revolves around living a “big” positive life.

10. LOVE MORE. Make it a priority to always come from a place a love. Whether you are standing in the grocery line, stuck in traffic, or having a conversation with a co-worker, family member or a friend, coming from this love “state” not only affects how you feel, it affects how others feel around you too.

How do you do that? Simply ask yourself “If I were coming from a place of love right now, how would I act?” and then do that.

Sometimes it can simply be acknowledging another person with a big genuine smile, giving a compliment or just refraining from getting into a confrontation when you’re placed in a negative situation.

11. GO WITHIN AND GET REALLY CONNECTED TO “SOURCE” (or the God of your understanding). Simply be still, be present and go within. Meditation is a phenomenal way to do that. There’s no better way to elevate your vibration, feel true inner peace and get the answers, solutions and guidance you are looking for.

AND last but not least…

12. FOCUS ON WHAT’S IMPORTANT. Sometimes we get so consumed on the little things or we are so focused on achieving a specific goal, that we neglect the bigger and more important things in our life. Often, we don’t realize that — until it’s too late.

So what’s important?

RELATIONSHIPS – that is the most important “thing” in our lives. Don’t neglect, ignore, or dismiss the people who mean the most to you.

They won’t always be there.

Remember, life is short, don’t find out the hard way to learn this lesson (like many people do).

Happy New Year! Make 2013 the best year yet!

Sending you lots and lots of love and light,

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Life, the universe and everything!

My biggest question about life used to be “what is my true calling?”. Over the last year I have come to the thought that ultimately I our “true calling” is to fulfill multiple aspects of ourselves by taking on new challenges and going in new directions when we don’t feel challenged enough.  Now my biggest life question is “what will the next adventure be?”

I have a fierce love for books, for reading them, learning from them and simply just the look, feel and smell of a book and so my story (life), much like my book shelf is ever growing/evolving. Not knowing what tomorrow brings or what’s in store for me in the next chapter is my life’s adventure. Some days my story is an epic love story, some days its fantasy…. the adventure keeps me turning the pages.

My greatest fear is that my story may not be worth reading to others once my book is complete, basically I fear not leaving behind a great enough impact to make others want to know my story.  So I have decided to steer myself from this fear by “intention”:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I “intend” to set an intention every Monday for that week, by focusing on something positive that I desire will push me to succeed in multiple aspects and ultimately my success in these multitudes will be a part of my story – I “intend” them to be much worth reading.

This is my second week and my intentions over the past two weeks have been as follows:

I intend to change my thoughts from “this is too hard, I give up” to “this may not be easy but it will be worth it”. In the past I have
given up on too many things that would have been good for me if I had just changed my thought pattern. I intend to live thankfully
and intern to show my children that each moment and opportunity we have in this life is something we should celebrate with gratitude – be it good or bad because ultimately these experiences mold us into what we are.

I intend to learn and or re-discover something new about myself every day this week. I also intend to wake up a bit earlier every morning and to spend the first half-hour of my day being thankful for those in my life.

There is always, always, always something to be thankful for. In daily life we must realize that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratefulness that makes us happy.

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude